The freedom of being yourself

BY: COLLEEN LINDBERG

It has been said that the most freeing experience in our lives is when we realize who we really are and what we are here to accomplish. So, I wonder, do we ever really figure this out? I think that we can and do, in small increments every day.

If you look at your life and evaluate the things that you do every day from your job to your families, lifestyle choices and social events. Then ask yourself when I am doing these things are there times that I feel at peace? Are there times where I get this overwhelming sense of joy for life? Am I happy? Do I feel connected to the people around me and who I am with? These are all things that lead us to who we are. The feelings of joy, peace, love are all signs that you are in alignment. It’s when the feelings of irritation, anger, frustration show up that we know things are out of alignment. This might mean that the scenarios you are in are toxic for you and your dreams. This might mean that you are meant for other things in life.

Is it really realistic to think that we can always be in joy and peace? Not really but striving for it on a daily basis will keep us sane. I know enough about life to know that we are humans here on earth and we can’t avoid all pain, disappointment and other feelings like this. But we can, however, curb the amount, get a new perspective on them and move through those feelings faster.

A few things I have learned on this throughout my life

1) People don’t do things to you, they do things for themselves. Sometimes we really take things personally, which then creates all these emotions that are made up in ourselves, when the person never intended us to feel or wasn’t even necessary in the first place. When you are broached with a conversation or situation that stirs up negative emotions in you, I would ask the questions “Is this my circus?” ie: Do I need to learn from this or feel this. If the answer is no, then honor the transaction and disengage.

2) We are all in this together on this experience and in this journey. The goal is to find more happiness every day and keep aligning ourselves with the people, things, and situations that make us happy. We don’t have time for people that hold us back here or bring in negative vibes. We try to change them, but really it doesn’t work. Just let the relationship go and if it’s meant to be it will come back, but please do not sacrifice your positive vibes on the people that don’t appreciate it.

3) We are in charge of our happiness. We are. Period. You get to choose every day. If you don’t like your job and it’s a toxic environment, find another one. If you are in a toxic relationship, leave. I know it’s complicated but your relationship with yourself and your happiness are more important than that. Change is hard, I get it, but really you are meant for amazing things in life, you just need to choose you.

Out of all the things I could share with you today here is the main take away. You are supposed to live a life with joy, peace, love, and happiness in it. Our jobs are to find out what does that for us and do more of that. Happy hunting.